Saturday, March 29, 2008

DINNER DANCES, AND (FANCY) DRESSES

The Cercle de Pondichery was the local club where the elite met every evening for a game of tennis, or a round of bridge, or several rounds of drinks. Babuji, who used to play tennis before he got married, started playing again every evening, and enjoyed it very much.

It was here at the club I was introduced to Dubonnet, a sweet wine, which I really enjoyed, and given a choice, I always went for that. The children were given a treat at the club once a week, the club’s special open toasted sandwich with tomato and onion chutney, which we had never tasted before, or after our time in Pondicherry. It was something different and new and enjoyed by all.
Soon after our arrival in this town, there was a fancy dress party for the children, held in the club. Just to introduce the children to the club, I had Viji, a six-year old, dressed as a South Indian bride,
and Bala, a ten year old then as a bridegroom. Raji was dressed as a gypsy girl. The costumes were a success, and appreciated by all.

Later on there was a fancy dress party for the adults as well, and Babuji and I took part. I was a Malayali woman and wore the traditional white mundu - neriyathu, and Babuji was a Reddiar, with diamond earrings sparkling in his ears.











On the last Saturday of every month, the club used to organise a dinner- dance party which was well attended from the Chief Commissioner downwards. Ninety nine percent of the club members were non-vegetarians. On Saturdays they refrained from non- vegetarian food. Hence accordingly, the dinner used to be announced only after midnight. The music and the dance, starting from 9 pm or 9.30 pm went on into the small hours of the next day.

Though neither of us danced, Babuji and I used to go regularly to listen to the music and watch the others dance. One couple used to do the rock and roll so well that all the other dancers would move back and give them the whole floor. And this couple, the Squires, used to do full justice to this privilege.

Mr. Kripalani was really surprised when he asked me for a dance once, and I told him that I did not dance. His next question was, “Well, then, do you sing?”
“No.”
“Do you play tennis? Do you play bridge? Do you swim?” were his next questions, to all of which my answer was – “No.”
He was really taken aback, and asked me seriously, “Then how do you manage to survive?”

Mr. Kripalani belonged to the Indian Civil Service cadre, whose members were trained in England in pre-independent years, and these officers were totally anglicized. Well, actually, there are some exceptions to this. And we came to know one of them in Trichy, while we were there for ten months. He was a District Judge there. A Malayali, he was not in the least anglicized, and he and his family were very down-to-earth people. His children and Raji and Bala were good friends, and went to school together. Mr. Kripalani, being a bachelor, and used to his own life-style, could not understand that a housewife with four demanding children and a husband, had plenty of reasons to survive, without any other outside recreations.

What really knocked me out was seeing a whole roasted pig, with a garland round its neck and a nimboo in its mouth as the centrepiece at the non-vegetarian table. Thank goodness I was able to hide my feelings and surprise from showing on my face. I had seen pictures like this in many English magazines, and that saved me.

There was a separate table for the vegetarians – “The Grass Eaters” we were called. Today’s grass eaters, or, shall I say grass smokers, use a different grass.

The club used to hold dinner dance parties for visiting dignitaries too. There were also magic shows, puppet shows and mono-acting shows. Special Christmas parties for the children were held, too. All told, the club life was enjoyed by everybody. It was a kind of life which we had never experienced before, or after our Pondy life.

In Pondicherry we were one in a hundred. Coming back to Delhi, we were just one in a million.

11 comments:

Gardenia said...

'Mr. Kripalani, being a bachelor, and used to his own life-style, could not understand that a housewife with four demanding children and a husband, had plenty of reasons to survive, without any other outside recreations.'--well said!
'Today’s grass eaters, or, shall I say grass smokers, use a different grass.'
This respectable great-grandmother is being naughty, now!

Anonymous said...

"Today’s grass eaters, or, shall I say grass smokers, use a different grass."

Once again, when it comes to grandmas, you are a grass apart.

heckler said...

which reminds me of the hockey player in the 80s who preferred grass because he hadn't smoked astro turf

R.Ramakrishnan said...

Vintage stuff.Great reading. Nice to see photos from the album.

Indrani said...

A whole roasted pig ? and a garnished one that too.

Nice memories, I enjoyed reading it.

Lakshmi Bharadwaj said...

Hello,
I had been to this blog once before as you were connected to Mrs. Raji's blog. Let me be the first one to welcome you to Mysore blog park. It's great to see more people here.

kallu said...

Great memories and a style that just flows. Now we know where Raji gets it from.

Viji said...

But Ma , you are "Lakhon mein ek" !! Oh how wonderful to read all this and yes!! I remember your telling us about the Squires.
As for the Club , one of my most favourite and evocative memories is sitting on the very high bar stool and sipping a glass of chilled , delicious mosambi juice and savouring the taste , trying to hold on to the pleasure of the drink and through the straw enticing the last tantalising granule of sugar to come all the way up !! Even till today any drink I have with a straw brings back the thrill of that childhood treat.

RAJI MUTHUKRISHNAN said...

And I remember sulking quite a bit because I was quite anti-social and did not want to participate in any fun event! But impossible to quench Maiji's enthusiasm and joie de vivre

flowergirl said...

Oho, so Kamini and Sekar werent the only ones fancy dressed!

Lakshmi said...

Lovely reading Chithi, your menries and musings. And I still remember our visit to Pondicherri. Raji then was busy with one folk dance Pattanthikku pogalam edi... and Viji had a recitation "Cherries ripe cherries.." but she had a sore throat or something which was worrying her... all this round about the time we visited there... I remember all those...And God! I do remember that 'haunted' ( how viji used to tell) door, a real yarn she reeled and both our imaginations ran all scary scary...... wonder if she remembers all this!!!
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>lakshmi